This is an informative book, giving sound advice on many aspects of adoption to both the public and prospective adoptive parents, such as open vs. confidential adoption. The author doesn't push either practice and gives important references addressing each. She is informative and straightforward about the issue of infertility. I am now a grandparent with children of our adopted daughter and agree with the author that 'what makes a real grandparent is far less biology than it is psychology.